A
Different New Year’s Resolution
By
Ed Maier, Former Andersen Partner
Polarization
is an issue that is written about or discussed frequently today. It is the topic of many newspaper articles,
podcasts, talk shows and other forms of commentary. Usually, the discussion
relates to polarization in politics. But
it is also referenced as an issue in education, leadership, economics, race and
other areas of society. Most often, the
conversation is about the degree of polarization and the fact that it is
growing. Occasionally, there are
comments on how individuals can control or modify their own conversations to
minimize the effect of differences of opinion.
But there are few practical suggestions for people to follow to reduce
it in conversations or dialogues with friends, family and co-workers.
As
a kickoff to this 2025 New Year, I want to recommend some specific
organizations that work to build dialog and reduce polarity in different parts
of society. Two of these groups I have
experienced personally. Two others I have just begun to learn about. In each case, I provide you with some
background and a link that you can use to explore and learn more about
them. I encourage you to resolve to do
so.
Braver
Angels
is a national organization that I have participated in for several years. In their mission statement, which you can
find at www.braverangels.org, they state simply that:
“Bringing Americans together to bridge the partisan divide and strengthen our
democratic republic…” is the driving force behind the organization. Braver Angels offers many opportunities
through their workshops, seminars and meetings for us to learn how to
participate in meaningful conversations.
These experiences are designed to help us understand the points of view
of those with whom we may differ. I
emphasize “to understand” because they do not attempt to “change your mind” or
criticize individual points of view. I
have participated in several of their meetings.
They are informative and non-threatening. I have met people whose beliefs might be
wildly different than my own. I have not
necessarily changed mine, but I have tempered them with a better understanding
of the viewpoint of others.
Braver
Angels helps improve communication and reduce polarization. It strives to “reduce the partisan
divide.” The above website describes
them in greater detail. Samples of the workshop titles are: Depolarizing
Within; Disagreeing Better; Common Ground; Families and Politics; and Public
Policy and Race. You can also use the
website to connect with someone in or around your community. Or you can reach out to me and I will help
you connect.
Project
Unity
is a Dallas-based organization which provides services around the country and,
in some cases, beyond our borders. Their
website describes their focus as follows: “Project Unity is a collaborative
movement based on the faith-driven belief that what unites us is greater than
what divides us. Our core focus is building and sustaining community. Our
mission is fulfilled through dialogue, community building events and
activities, education and empowerment. I have had experience working with this
group also. Their programs provide
unique experiences to anyone who participates in them. Each time I come away from one of their
events, I find my perspective has been broadened or altered to some degree.
Programs
that Project Unity structures for individual groups and organizations are
created under their “Together We…” formula.
“Together We Dine” brings people together around food; “Together We
Ball” brings people together around the sport of basketball; and “Together We
Sing” brings people together around music.
You
can learn more about Project Unity at www.projectunity.net. Or you can direct a
specific inquiry about their work in a general email to info@projectunity.net.
I
believe either of these organizations can help deal with polarization in your
community, your family or your workplace. As I sought out places that deal with
this issue, I learned of others that have similar missions and can provide
similar experiences. I include two of them here for your consideration.
No
Labels is
an American political organization whose stated mission is to support
centrism and bipartisanship through what it calls the "commonsense
majority". Information about this
national organization can be found at www.nolabels.org. I understand that since
their founding over ten years ago, they have been active in various communities
to provide voting alternatives in elections.
They have also “…regularly released original books and reform proposals
aimed at offering informed research to constructively shape policy debates and
outline solutions for some of the country's biggest challenges.”
American
Promise
(www.AmericanPromise.net) states on its website
that it “…is a cross-partisan organization committed to winning the For Our
Freedom Amendment.” It goes on to say
this amendment to the U.S. Constitution would “…allow the states and Congress
to set reasonable limits on campaign spending, create lasting reform, topple
the coercive impact of unregulated money in the political system, restore
checks and balances, end pay-to-play politics, and most importantly, give the
power and voice back to We The People”.
I
have not participated in the direct activities of these two organizations, but
I have attended a few of their meetings.
Their focus is clear and they are committed to their mission statements. I encourage you to investigate their purpose
and, if they interest you, consider participating with them.
I
encourage you to seek out any one of these groups to learn more about
them. See if their programs appeal to
you. Or take some time to search and
explore others with a similar mission. I hope each of us devote some time in
2025 to take our own steps to reduce polarization in our society.
And
if you are not inclined to join a “group”, you can work individually toward the
same goal. Each of you knows someone
with different points of view than you on a variety of issues – economic,
political, religious, societal, etc. I
challenge you to invite one such person, or even a small group of them, to join
you for coffee, lunch, dinner. Tell them
what your purpose is. Tell them you want
to have an open, frank and friendly conversation about an issue that you may
both see differently. I know that as you
worked with our firm, you learned skills to inquire, to listen and to learn
with clients, with office mates and with your leadership teams. You learned how
to respectfully disagree. You developed
skills at balancing and compromising points of view to move forward.
We
seem to have lost the art of having reasonable dialogue with those who believe
or perceive things to be different than our own beliefs. If we believe it is
important to restore that art, we should take some action—professionally or
personally—at whatever level we can.
Polarization
has spread significantly in our communities and our country. It started in small pockets and grew larger
over the years. To reduce it we must do
the same. Start small; grow larger. Take some personal steps in 2025 to do so.
Thank
you for taking the time to read my thoughts.
If you have any comments, I would like to hear from you at edmaier46@gmail.com. I would especially like to know if you are
aware of any groups or organizations that have similar missions to those I
mentioned in this piece.
If
you enjoy my writing and would like additional samples, go to www.amazon.com and pick up my book – Think
Straight. Talk Straight.